from relationship to parenting even for raising little kids. thoughts from a clip about Harvard education
| Help with love (someone willing or trying to figure out) | Against |
| Separate problem with person | connect problem with person |
| Understand him, listen then find a way | labeling and judging |
| Solution to make people respect him | make him feel shame and fear |
| Challenging: act again and again disappointed helper | things need to take care timely |